When I think about my life I am always trying to raise the bar. There is something deep inside me that is like a flame that can’t be blown out. It’s a gnawing desire to want to be my best self. Now, sometimes that causes me to go too far, push too much, and it can be detrimental. So, how do you hone in and reach the best version of yourself?
I think it is about defining how high you actually want to go. For me, I used to think I wanted to build a 200 story skyscraper (metaphorically and maybe literally haha). But why? Why did I want that? Have you ever taken the time to actually sit down and think about why you want what you want?
Truly, I’ve always just tried to hit a target I’ve set for myself. I never took the time to discover where what I desired came from.
I once had a mentor who said:
“Don’t ask what you want to do rather, how do you want to live?”
So I’ll ask you, how do you want to live? Have you ever thought about that?
Do you want to be wealthy or live very modestly?
Do you want to travel the world or are you content with your town?
Do you want to be healthy or live just “doing you”?
Do you want to know GOD or risk not knowing him?
Do you want to develop your relationships or let them slip away?
Do you want to be there for your family or risk letting them slip away too?
This is a major question that will determine how you want your life to turn out. How do you want to live?
For me? Now, it is different. Do I still want to take a company public, absolutely. That is my ultimate dream business-wise. But, I let that dream define me for far too long.
Now, I truly want to build companies and then sell a majority stake in them and let someone else run them or not sell at all and still have someone else run them. Why?
Because as I get older and think about what I really want it is two core things I want to be known for. A man who was present with kids and was his wife's biggest fan. Who was constantly there with them experiencing and doing life together. I want to be there when they need me most, I want to be the one who develops a life NOW before I have all this and make the sacrifices to make it happen so that when I do have a family I can look back and say, yep, I did that for you then. I set us up and paid the price so we could pay any price now.
Someone who is loved and respected most by the people I love and respect the most as my friend Jordan Montgomery says.
So, how do you want to live? How will you define your life? Let’s keep attacking, hustling, and getting it done daily. Win the day, stack enough days together and someday soon, you will truly get to define how you want to live.
Just make sure you know how you truly want to live.
KF
